We’re told to self-love, but do you truly know what that means? It’s difficult to practice something you don’t understand, so that’s when I started to read what self-love actually is, why self-love is important and how to practice it.
What is self-love?
Self love is all about appreciating yourself, building confidence, taking care of your own needs above others, and valuing yourself. How you self-love is different person-to-person, but this is why the focus is through the actions you take.
For me, self-love is all about not being hard on myself, eating healthy, taking breaks from work or stress, and prioritising myself. However, it could mean something completely different to you, and that’s okay. Everyone’s form of self love is different to one another, but the key thing is you focus on you, your wellbeing and your happiness.
Why is it important?
Many people grow up being told and then believing that self-love is egotistical and that prioritising others above yourself is what is truly important. Well, that’s wrong. Of course, care for others, but what good is it to care for others at the expense of your own mental wellbeing?
I wrote a post on how being an empath affects mental health and that touches on why we should prioritise our own well being above others. It’s not selfish, careless or us growing our ego. To not self-love is asking to hit a brick wall at some point. I reached that point in early February when I broke down during my third panic attack in one month. Once I took time off work to focus on my mental health, I learned all about self love and realised I did none of it beforehand.
I now understand that self-love and self-care helps to reduce stress, improves emotional resilience, makes you more productive, and boosts your confidence too. It offers many more benefits, but these are a few examples. Whatever it is you’ve struggled with: anxiety, narcissistic abuse, or trauma for example, self-love will play a big part in helping you become more positive.
How to practice self-love
As mentioned before, how you choose to self love may be different to how someone else chooses to. As long as what you’re doing is working for you, then it doesn’t matter how different it may be to someone else. Below are 15 ways to practice self-love.
- Stay hydrated
- Go for a walk
- Allow yourself downtime without feeling guilty
- Read a good book
- Have a digital detox for one day
- Say daily affirmations
- Buy yourself flowers
- Bake yourself a delicious treat
- Book a day off work, just for you
- Eat a healthy meal
- Get a good night’s sleep
- Practice yoga
- Be proud of yourself and what you’ve accomplished
- Practice daily gratitude
- Treat yourself to a pamper day
How do you practice self-love?